I read a devotion for women that quoted T.D. Jakes: When you become dependable, you become invisible.
The author of the devotion went on to chastise those of us who “do it all”. We feel taken for granted, she says, but it’s our own fault because “we have convinced everyone that [we] are the only ones who can do what [we] do.”
As a woman who is always doing a million things, I’m not sure how I feel about this. Yes, I understand that were I to die, the world would move on, but what does that mean? That we should do nothing because if we weren’t here, everybody would figure out a way to get things done? That can’t be it.
The way to avoid feeling taken for granted, I think, is to make sure that you’re doing the things you’re doing because YOU want to do them. I think you have to be honest about why you’re doing what you’re doing. If no one were ever to say thank you, would you stop? Are you secretly seeking recognition?
I’m resolving to make sure that the things I’m doing are what I *really* want to do, so that if there’s no recognition, I can be ok with that. I’m going to continue to be dependable. I’m not going to say no just to say no. If that makes me invisible, so be it.
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